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In my last post, I left off with the question: “How do you recover from a situational, or a reactive depression. If disappointment or dissatisfaction are the root causes, what is the root cure?”

Sometimes this question can be so challenging that an objective and collaborative partnership is called for to unearth the answers. A skilled therapist can be what is needed to help forge this collaborative relationship, out of which the goal is to explore and guide toward insights and solutions that can bring about an increase in self-efficacy. In otherwords, inevitably we are all responsible for finding our own answers to life’s difficulties. But sometimes we need help.

Sometimes we cannot always change our situation to meet our needs; at least not right away. What might be called for then, is an increase in our ability to cope and tolerate, until we can change it. Alternatively, it might be necessary to begin looking at steps which will move us forward toward the desired goal. Once a path can be determined, hope is born. hope  And sometimes all we need is a little hope that things will eventually be better, in order to start feeling better.  You can start feeling better by giving yourself something to feel better about.  One of the most potent antidotes to a depressed mood is to find something to be grateful for.  I firmly believe, that you cannot be grateful and depressed at the same time.

In my next posts, I would like to comment on some pressing social issues which seem to be rising in the consciousness of our country; gun rights, and marriage equality.

“The consciousness of the individual is the law unto every condition.” – Joel S. Goldsmith

Kevin Michael Ross, M.S., LMFT

There’s a difference between what most of us think of as “clinical depression” and feeling depressed. So let’s make some sense of it for a practical understanding.

Clinical depression or Major Depressive Disorder for example, is a more pervasive, entrenched kind of emotional experience than a depressed mood. Typically, symptoms are more severe and long-lasting. Of course, the medical and mental health communities have ways of talking about these things so that we understand among ourselves as to what kind of emotional experience our clients may be having.

Major Depressive Disorder, Dysthymic Disorder, and Adjustment Disorder differ from each other – most notably characterized by timeframes (onset and duration), impact on social and occupational functioning, and origins of the symptoms, such as triggering events or circumstances, or medical or biochemical causes.

depressionblogWhat I am talking about here today is what we call a “situational” or “reactive” depression.  But forgoing the psychiatric labels, this is the kind of emotional experience that is characterized by sadness and all its other potentially-related feelings, that arise out of a profound disappointment or loss.

Simply, it stems from a desire for life to go the way we want it to go – and when it doesn’t we are saddened and have difficulty recovering emotionally.  We feel “bad”.  I mentioned that sadness is for most, a prime emotional experience in feeling depressed, but can include other feelings like anger, anxiety, loneliness, resentment, or betrayal. Feelings of depression can come both from negative and positive experiences.

How do you recover from a situational, or a reactive depression. If disappointment or dissatisfaction are the root causes, what is the root cure? Let’s talk about that in my next post. Until then,

– “Thoughts become things . . . choose the good ones.”

Kevin Michael Ross, M.S., LMFT